Keeping kids safe from the nastier, potentially harmful side of the internet is a big ask. Doubly so in a world where smartphones offer unmonitored access to everything from graphic adult content to gambling sites.
That’s not the only worry. There’s also the risk of cyber-predators and cyberbullies, as well as online scams and games with in-app payments that mean kids could accidentally run up huge bills. And that’s before you consider the as-yet-undetermined effects that over-exposure to the internet could be having on the development of young minds.
Parents’ fears are well founded. A Middlesex University study found that 53% of 11-16-year-olds had seen explicit material online. Of these, 94% saw it before the age of 14. Tellingly, 33% of those surveyed first saw pornography using a mobile phone.
Perhaps even more worryingly, Ofcom discovered that one in eight young people have been bullied on social media.
And of course, aside from keeping them safe, you’ve also got to choose a handset and data plan that meets your child’s needs and your budget. Luckily we’ve got you covered with all
Costs can quickly spiral but it’s important to choose a contract that offers the usage limits your child needs for the best price and that offers coverage near you. Take a look at our best SIM-only deals.
But the good news is that, if you’re careful and get yourself clued-up about smartphones and the internet, it’s possible to keep your kids away from the worst of the web. And to get your child a phone they’ll be happy with, along with enough calls, texts and data to keep them amused, without breaking the bank.
Read on and we’ll tell you everything you need to know about getting your child a smartphone and how to keep them safe when they use it.
How to set up parental controls and monitor kids’ phone use
Parental controls allow you to determine what sites and apps your child can access with their smartphone, tablet or laptop.
They also let you set limits on how long a child can spend on their device and even allow you to monitor exactly how they’re using it.
Worried about kids running up high bills in app stores? Parental controls can take care of that too, by letting you set spending limits. Or you can set up your child’s phone so they can’t spend any money at all.
Parental control apps
There are a number of great apps out there that’ll give you the parental controls you need to help keep your child safe and make sure they don’t run up a huge bill.
Here at uSwitch, we’ve found that the easiest to use and most comprehensive app for parental controls is Google’s Family Link. And best of all, it’s free to download and there’s no charge for using the service.
Which devices can you use with Google Family Link?
The good news is, Google Family Link works on any Apple or Android devices.
The only caveat is that to be able to use Google Family Link, the parent’s Android handset or tablet will have to powered by the 4.4 version of Android (also known as Nougat) or later. If you’re not sure what software your device uses, you can check by first heading to the ‘Settings’ section of your phone.
If the parent’s device is an iPhone or iPad, it’ll need to be running the iOS 12 version of Apple’s software or later. To check which version your device is on, open the settings app and then head to ‘About’. You’ll find the number of your software under ‘Version’.
How to set up Family Link
Step 1) Irrespective of which device you own, if you don’t already have a Google account you’ll have to sign up for one.
Signing up for Google account takes a matter of minutes. All you need to do is fill in your details on the Google account sign-up page.
Step 2) Download the Family Link app.
Parent’s device an Android phone or tablet? Head to the Google Play store to download Family Link for Android.
iPhone or iPad owner? You’ll need the App Store version of Family Link.
Step 3) Now, open up the app and sign in as a parent/guardian. Then within the app, you’ll have to set up a separate account for your child, if they’re under the age of 13. You’ll find the account sign-up option by pressing the + sign at the top of the screen. Creating a Google Account for your child will take about 15 minutes.
You can create an account for them within the Family Link app, on an Android device (either a new one or one that’s already set up), or on other devices and computers.
From within Family Link. Tap the + button and then follow the instructions:
On a new Android device. Turn on the device and follow the instructions to get it up and running. When asked to sign in with your Google Account, tap Create new account. If you don’t see that button, tap More options. Enter your child’s name, birthday, gender, email address and password. Then follow the instructions to sign in with your own Google Account, provide parental consent and pick your child’s settings.
On an Android device that’s already set up. Remove any existing accounts on the device – find out how here. Delete any content on the device that you don’t want your child to access, like apps, photos and videos. Then add a new account to the device. You’ll be asked to sign in with your Google Account – tap Create new account and enter your child’s details. Now just follow the instructions to sign in with your own Google Account, provide parental consent and set your child’s security settings.
On other devices/computers. Head to the create your Google Account page and create an account for your child. Sign in with your own Google Account and choose a way to provide parental consent for your child’s account. When you’re finished you’ll see a confirmation message on screen.
How to manage your child’s activity using Family Link
Step 1) Change purchase approval settings. Family Link lets you determine what kind of purchases your child can make. There are four approval levels:
All content means they’ll need your consent to download anything, even if it’s free.
All paid content means they’ll need your consent to download anything that costs money.
Only in-app purchases means they’ll need your consent to download anything bought from within an app, like costumes, weapons and coins.
No approval required means they don’t need your consent to make any purchases.
You can set the approval settings from within the Play Store app by tapping Menu > Account > Family > Manage family members. Tap your child’s name and then Purchase approvals and set your desired level.
On other devices, you’ll have to visit the Google Play My Account page and select your child’s name from within the Family Group section.
If they need your approval, your child will be asked for your password when they try to make a purchase. You should review the request and, if you consent, enter your password on their device to approve the purchase.
Step 2) Set up parental controls. This will let you stop your child from downloading age-inappropriate content like games, apps, films and TV shows.
To set them up, open the Family Link app, select your child and tap Manage settings > Controls on Google Play. Select the type of content you want to filter and how to filter or restrict access.
Step 3) Restrict their other activity. You can also manage which websites your child can visit using the Google Chrome web browser, which filters they can use on Google Search and other settings for Google Activity.
These are all found within the same Manage settings menu mentioned above.
Step 4) Track their location. Wondering where your child has gone and what they’re up to? You can pinpoint the location of their Android device using the location settings.
To do so, open the Family Link app, select your child and on the ‘Location’ card tap Set up. Turn on the settings required to see your child’s location and tap Turn on. Note: it might take up to 30 minutes to see your child’s location.
You can also view their location history, providing they are 13 or over. To do so, open Family Link, select your child’s name and tap Manage settings > More > Manage Google activity > Manage Activity Controls. Scroll down and turn Location History on or off.
There’s another way to stop your child from downloading content or signing into any services you want restricted: two-factor authentication.
2FA, as it’s also known, is a belt-and-braces approach to online security. As well as entering your password, you’ll have to enter a unique one-off code that you’re sent by another method, for example by text message, before you can sign into an online service.
It’s a handy way of ensuring that it’s really you trying to sign in, and not someone impersonating you. But you can also use it to restrict your child’s use of certain apps and services.
How? Just enter your mobile phone number as the contact method for 2FA. Then they won’t be able to sign in to a service or buy something online without your say so.
All of the major web services give the option of 2FA. You can see links below on how to activate it on the most popular services around.
How to stop your kid’s mobile habits costing a fortune
There are many benefits to your child having a smartphone. It can help with their technological development, open their minds to all sorts of new ideas and ways of thinking, and they’re a valuable educational tool.
They will also let them access social networks and stay in touch with friends, with is an important part of their social development.
And with 95% of UK kids now owning a smartphone, according to Ofcom’s The Communication Market report, chances are yours will want one as well.
But with high-end smartphones costing more than £1,000, how do you keep the costs down?
Thankfully there are a few ways.
If you don’t like the idea of buying a second-hand phone because you’re worried it won’t be in good condition, a refurbished handset is a much safer option.
These are pre-owned devices that have been made good as new by the manufacturer. They’re not brand new, and they won’t be this year’s models, but the manufacturer has wiped them clean of any data and content, spruced up the innards and given the outside a polish. The result? A phone that looks and works as new.
For example, you can pick up a refurbished 64GB iPhone 8 Plus for £599 – that’s £100 cheaper than a new model. And to use it, you wouldn’t know the difference.
For iPhone and iPads, the Refurbished section of the Apple website should be your first port of call. It sometimes sells older handsets no longer available on the standard website, like iPhone SE. Though these are subject to availability.
You can also buy refurbished phones from all different manufacturers from Carphone Warehouse, and direct from mobile networks like O2 and EE.
For more information, check out our guide to buying refurbished phones.
An even cheaper option is to give your child your old phone when you upgrade to a new one. You will know how the phone works, so can show them, and you’ll know exactly what condition it is in.
Alternatively, you could trade in or sell your old phone and put the money/credit earned towards a new handset for your child.
Tempted? Here’s everything you need to know about selling your phone for the best price.
The Monqi device is a smartphone built specifically for kids. Parents can control every aspect of the device using an app you can download on your phone.
Here’s our father-and-son review of the Monqi phone.
Take out a flexible contract
Now you’ve got the handset, you’ll need a way of getting data, minutes and texts.
Contracts work out cheaper than pay as you go. But don’t worry, that doesn’t mean you have to be locked into a lengthy, expensive contract. Mobile operators have got wise, and now offer a large range of SIM-only deals that are much cheaper than 24- or 36-month contracts.
giffgaff is one of the cheapest. It offers plans starting at just £5 a month (for 500MB of data, 150 minutes and 500 texts), and you can stop or change your allowance each month.
But it’s not the only offering in town. Carphone Warehouse’s iD network gives you 10GB of data, 1,200 minutes and unlimited texts for £12 a month, while traditional mobile networks also offer similar deals.
Check out the best SIM-only deals here.
Set a price cap
Of course, if your child exceeds your allowance with a SIM-only deal, you could end up paying a lot more. That’s where a price cap comes in.
This is a limit on your monthly usage that can’t exceed. It means you can’t spend more than you’ve allocated during the month, so you know your child can’t run up a big bill.
Some mobile operators offer a price cap. You can find about them here:
Want to know which mobile phone provider to choose? Here’s our guide to the best networks for kids and teenagers.
Using a phone at school
Kids are liable to use their phones a lot at school, so it’s important to know what’s allowed and what isn’t in order to make sure they’re obeying the rules.
Are phones allowed in schools?
There are no nationwide rules guiding mobile use in school – each has their own policy. Some allow them to be used in class, while others ban them altogether (though most sit somewhere in between).
You should check with your child’s school and make sure your child follows the rules.
How can I stop my child seeing inappropriate content on their mobile while at school?
Broadband companies offer parental controls for every device connected to your home wi-fi network, making adult content inaccessible. But these don’t work away from the home, or if your child disconnects from the network and uses mobile data instead.
Mobile companies switch on adult content filters by default, so when you take out a contract you shouldn’t be able to access inappropriate content. You can change these settings if you like. Just contact your mobile operator to find out how.
Here are the contact details for the main mobile networks.
Cyberbullying: how to spot it, prevent it and what to do about it
In days gone by, bullying stopped the minute the child left the school gates. But with always-on technology, kids are always connected, which means cyberbullying can happen any time of the day or night.
It can also invade a child’s home, and happen right in their bedroom. And because of its pervasive nature, it can be even more psychologically scarring.
According to ChildLine, there was a 12% rise in cyberbullying in 2017 compared to the previous year. But thankfully, there are some things you can do about it.
What is cyberbullying?
It’s basically bullying conducted online through chat rooms, social networks, emails, text messages, gaming platforms and the like. These are all accessible from a phone, making any child vulnerable.
It can take many forms, from the occasional derogatory comment to a sustained campaign of abusive messages, pictures and actions conducted online.
How can you tell if your child is being cyberbullied?
It’s not easy, as just as with real-life bullying, the victims may feel too ashamed to tell anyone. But there are some tell-tale signs to look out for.
- Your child might want to avoid school or seeing their friends, or may show an aversion to using their phone, tablet or other connected device.
- They may be nervous or edgy when they receive a text message, email or notification.
- They may be unhappy after using their device.
- They may become withdrawn generally.
Some children may display some of these symptoms and not be the victim of cyberbullying, so it’s difficult to tell. But stay aware of your child’s behaviour, and be wary especially if it changes suddenly.
How can you keep your child safe online?
Internet Matters, a non-profit organisation that aims to empower parents and carers to keep children safe in the digital world, recommends the following tips.
Talk about it. It’s not an easy subject to broach, but it’s vital that you know if they’re being bullied so that you can do something about it.
If they do open up, listen to what they say and don’t interrupt. Let them know it’s not their fault and ask plenty of questions.
Don’t contact the bully and tell you child not to reply. Block the bully instead so they can’t continue to harass.
Keep evidence by taking screen grabs of any abusive behaviour, including images, email address, social media handles and phone numbers.
Talk to your child’s teachers but do it discreetly. Making a big scene could make the situation worse for your child.
Report it to the relevant technology platform on which the bullying is taking place. Social networks like Facebook, YouTube and Twitter all have policies to deal with such behaviour.
Encourage your child to use their smartphone in the same room as you, and not in an isolated environment.
How old does a child have to be to use social media?
Different social networks have different age requirements. The problem is, most just rely on the person signing up being honest – there’s no system of age verification. So it’s important that, if you don’t mind your child being on a social network, you help them set up their account to make sure they don’t lie about their age.
Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter and Reddit require users to be at least 13 years old.
WhatsApp and Tumblr users in the European Economic Area (including the European Union) must be at least 16 years old. Outside of that, users must be 13 or older.
How to keep your child safe online
Beyond the measures we’ve already outlined, there are more general habits for both you and your family to help keep your children safe online.
Stress the dangers of oversharing
When signing up to a social network, it’s tempting to tick every box and share every detail about yourself. After all, you’ll get a better experience, the companies promise, with personalised adverts and maybe even a birthday treat or two.
But oversharing has its dangers. Not only does it give away very personal information that could be used to steal your child’s identity (or guess their passwords), location tracking can also help predators see where your child is.
Talk to your child about the importance of privacy and what could happen if they share too much information about themselves.
Help them find out how to update their privacy settings so they only share information with who they want to.
Here is information on privacy settings from the main social networks:
Take an interest in how they use their phone
Know what apps they use, what social networks they’re part of and roughly how much time they spend on them. This can help pre-empt any problems like cyberbullying, oversharing or trouble sleeping through too much smartphone use late at night.
With younger children, you can explore the apps and games together. Not only will this make sure they only see age-appropriate content, it will also be good bonding time for you both.
Set limits on phone use
Experts agree that too much screen time can be detrimental for children. It can cause social, emotional and behavioural problems, brings a higher risk of obesity and using devices late at night can interfere with children’s natural sleep patterns.
This can all be avoided with some simple rules around phone use. Set limits on how long children are allowed to use their phones for, as well as when and where.
For example, some families ban phones from the dinner table so everyone talks to each other.
Others say no phone use until the child has done their homework.
There are no hard and fast rules. See what works for your family and use your judgement. If your child’s behaviour starts changing and they become more withdrawn, seek help from one of the organisations listed at the end of this article.
Set a good example
Children learn by example, so it’s important you have a healthy relationship with your phone.
If they grow up seeing you constantly glued to your phone, they’ll think it’s normal and do the same.
Make a concerted effort to carve out dedicated screen-free time for the whole family. Even better, get outside for a walk somewhere green. Fresh air and exercise will bring huge health benefits, and help everyone sleep better.
Where to get help
When it comes to safe phone use for children, there’s a lot to get your head around. But there is plenty of help available.
If you need extra guidance or advice, the following organisations can help.